It is a book that, while written about military strategy, it has become a handbook for business, sports, all competitive venues and should be used in everyday interaction with people. Too many times we enter a conversation, meeting, negotiations, or, one on one debates without knowing who we are interacting with, what they stand for, what they believe and who they are in general or in business. Below I have listed just 10 of the advices for Leadership. I also encourage you to read this book if you have not all ready done so and if you have, to reread it to remind you have what it takes to be a Leader and remind yourself what it takes to own your own power.
A leader leads by example, not by force.
You have to believe in yourself.
Appear weak when you are strong and strong when you are weak.
The supreme art of war is to subdue the enemy without fighting.
Supreme excellence consists of breaking the enemy’s resistance without fighting.
If the mind is willing, the flesh could go on and on without many things.
Victorious warriors win first and then go to war, while defeated warriors go to war first and then seek to win.
To know your enemy you must become your enemy.
Keep your friends close and your enemies closer.
Can you imagine what I would do if I did all I can?
This list is from a list of 31 Best pieces of Leadership Advice as written by Eric Jackson in Forbes.com
You cannot bring about prosperity by discouraging thrift. You cannot strengthen the weak by weakening the strong. You cannot help the little men by tearing down the big men. You cannot help the wage earner by pulling down the wage payer. You cannot further brotherhood of man by encouraging class hatred. You cannot help the poor by destroying the rich. You cannot establish sound security on borrowed money. You cannot keep out of trouble by spending more than you earn. You cannot build character and courage by taking away men’s initiative and independence. You cannot help men permanently by doing for them what they could and should do for themselves. Rev. William J. Boetcker
We have so many successful leaders who have gone before us and found tried and true ways and measurements for obtaining success.
Most of their findings can be put to use in almost everything we need to do to be our own guru of success. Why re-invent the wheel, so to speak, find new ways of being successful while using the proven tools that are already at your disposal.
Napoleon Hill’s 10 Rules For Success
Set your head and heart on a DEFINITE MAJOR PURPOSEand begin working on it NOW.
Adopt and follow the habit of GOING THE EXTRA MILE. Make Customer/Client Service your priority.
Always keep your MENTAL ATTITUDE positive and free from the spirit of defeatism.
Apply the GOLDEN RULE in all your human relationships, no matter what others may do.
Learn all that others have discovered in connection with your occupation, job or business and profit by their experience, thus saving yourself both grief and loss of time.
Be prudent with your diet, exercise regularly, and avoid dependence on drugs, alcohol, or tobacco.
Keep your dominating thoughts upon the things you desire and demand of life, and do not think about the things you do not want.
Learn to transmute your sex emotion into the attainment of your DEFINITE MAJOR PURPOSE, at will, remembering that this is a creative force of unknown, unlimited possibilities.
If you work for another person, do your work THEIR WAY, not yours, and do it in a gracious, pleasing manner.
Instead of criticizing others (no matter how much they may deserve it) devote your time to the discovery of traits of your own which should be correct lest they provide the basis of just criticism against you.
*Excerpted from The Science of Personal Achievement and Think & Grow Rich Newsletter.*
I have been a huge fan of Napoleon Hill for over 40 years. I was gifted with his book “Think and Grow Rich” in 1974 by a highly successful friend who swore this book was the reason for all he had obtained. It was one of the first self-help books I would read that teaches “If we change our thinking We can change our life.”
Napoleon Hill’s book “Think and Grow Rich” remains one of the best selling books of all time and is one of many must-read favorites for success.
Below I have listed Napoleon’s 17 Principles of Success from “The Science of Personal Achievement.”
Napoleon Hill’s 17 Principles of Success
Develop a Positive Mental Attitude
Define Your Major Purpose
Go the Extra Mile
Think more Accurately
Master Self-Discipline
Use the Master Mind Principle
Employ Applied Faith
Develop a Pleasing Personality
Discover Personal Initiative
Acquire Enthusiasm
Control Your Attention
Build On Teamwork
Learn From Defeat
Cultivate Creative Vision
Budget Your Time and Money
Maintain Sound Physical and Mental Health
Develop Good Habits
I highly suggest adding this book to your must read library. To this day, it changes lives. Everyone in every walk of life can benefit from Napoleon’s expertise and teachings.
Next week I will give Napoleon Hill’s 10 Rules of Success. **This list is from the Napoleon Hill Foundation *** Think and Grow Rich Newsletter.**
10 Habits to make yours, that will help you get out of your way.
I have been doing a lot of studying on the subject of “Thoughts become Things” taught by Best Selling Author, Mike Dooley. Below I am sharing a piece I was given many years ago and it is as true today as then
“Get Out Of Your Own Way”
1. Be careful what you ask for, you just might get it: Your words,Your dreams,Your thoughts have power to create conditions in your life. 2. What you speak about, you can bring about,If you keep saying you can’t stand your job, you might lose your job. 3. If you keep saying you can’t stand your body,Your body can become sick. 4. If you keep saying you can’t stand your car,Your car could be stolen or just stop operating. 5. If you keep saying you’re always broke, guess what?You’ll always be broke. 6. If you keep saying you can’t trust a man or trust a womanYou will always find someone in your life to hurt or betray you. 7 .If you keep saying you can’t find a job,You will remain unemployed. 8. If you keep saying you can’t find someone to love you or believe in you,Your very thoughts will attract more experiences to confirm your beliefs. 9. If you keep saying you are too old,You will soon act and look old. 10.Tget out of your way!get out of your way!urn your thoughts and conversations around to be more positive and power packedWith faith, hope and action.
DON’T BE AFRAID TO BELIEVE THAT YOU CAN HAVE WHAT YOU WANT AND DESERVE!
WATCH YOUR “THOUGHTS,” THEY BECOME WORDS WATCH YOUR “WORDS,” THEY BECOME ACTIONS. WATCH YOUR “ACTIONS,” THEY BECOME HABITS. WATCH YOUR “HABITS,” THEY BECOME CHARACTER. WATCH YOUR “CHARACTER,” FOR IT BECOMES YOUR “DESTINY”
This is a question I have gotten in the habit of asking myself from time to time. When things appear to no longer fit with the direction I want to go but I keep trying to make it work. So, I ask you …. ** Are you shrinking yourself to fit places you’ve outgrown. **
Way too often we stay too long in situations, relationships or jobs/careers that are not serving our higher purpose or happiness…. I am a huge proponent of the meaning of the words in Kenny Rodger’s song from the movie The Gambler…. “Know when to hold ’em and know when to fold ’em.” Letting go of negative people or events that are causing us to be unhappy, depressed or causes constant sadness in our lives is very seldom, an easy thing to do. However, living a life that is lower than your Vibrational needs of being happy does not bring you the blessings that are meant for you to have
Below are six important affirmations to learn and use daily are: I Am ___________(fill in the blank with a positive description) Remember that everything you say after saying I Am is an affirmation whether you say a positive or negative. Begin by saying the six mantras below;
I Am Enough,
I Am a Blessing to those whose lives I touch,
I Am intelligent, talented and resourceful,
I am beautiful/handsome and appreciate the beauty and handsomeness of others,
I am all that I need to be I love who I am. I let go of all that does not serve me in positive ways….
This may take time to let go of the big things that are keeping you from living the life you want, therefore practice letting go in small steps.
I am open to receive all that is good for me…. Too many times we are so busy doing for others that we end up being only givers, never allowing ourselves to accept the receiving. Living a balanced life means allowing yourself to receive as well as give. To believe that You are Enough!
I trust my Instincts and trust the guidance I am intuitively given…We have been gifted with a protective inner guide. Learn how to listen to it and use it for your protection, successes, and guidance for living your life to the fullest.
I am always in a state of Gratitude…. When you practice being grateful for people, events and things that come into your life it allows you to view life in a higher state of awareness and happiness. When an event or person comes into your life ask yourself “Will this association be for my Good.”
I have learned that No is a complete sentence and that it is ok to say No…… It took me years to learn this premise of saying no to others who were requesting my time on projects they had no time to do or did not want to do and to be ok with it. Our life minutes are precious…. We must use them wisely.
We often forget that every day is a New Day ??????. We go day to day in a rush to get to the next day, the following weekend, holiday or vacation. We often don’t think of stopping long enough to enjoy the very day that is present. Every day is a chance to begin again…. If you are making your own schedule and it does not seem to be working very well, Stop, and recognize the fact that it is You who are running yourself in circles!
If you are game …. let’s do a simple responsibility and time cleanse to start with: Go to your calendar, business, and personal planner and look at every appointment and function you have scheduled for the next month.
If you do not have a planner, then get a calendar or piece of paper and list your daily chores, responsibilities, appointments and social obligations· Now, look at each commitment and ask yourself the following 5 questions.
Give each of your answers a rating between 1 and 5 (1 being no longer essential and 5 very important)
1. How important is this to my life, family or work?
2. Are the deadlines listed, essential deadlines?
3. Can I eliminate this? And if I do who or what will it affect?
4. Can I move this to another month or to the end of the year?
5. Can I change the nature of the obligation?
As you look at each obligation and answer all 5 questions about each one of them, put the number that you gave to that obligation next to it.
Now, with a pencil … Take all of your number 5 obligations and put them back into your planner or on your calendar.
Review your 4s again and decide how many of them need to go back into your schedule. Take all that is left over and put the list in the back of your planner or clip it to your calendar. You can re-add any of these to your schedule if and when they resurface as a necessity that needs to be done.Then review your schedule every week to be sure you have entered in time for fun, family, and friends and be sure you made an entry for Date Night! Do this for 3 months and see if it is helpful for clearing out things that have become more habit than a necessity.Life is so short, and it is so important to make every day count. Give yourself time to enjoy your life, your family and your friends.
Sadly, many of us are so uncomfortable when giving personal accolades about ourselves that when asked to tell a little bit about ourselves we go right into all the things we do instead of saying anything about who we are. We are repeatedly told that we are not what we “Do” we need to know more about our “Who”. It is easier to rattle off all of our skills, education, certifications and what we did well on our former jobs or do well on our present job. It seems tougher to tell others about our talents, personality and the positives about who we are and why we are a personal asset to know and have as a friend or employee. We, as a general population, have become uncomfortable in talking about ourselves as far as our personal talents and gifts go. We feel like we are bragging about ourselves and to a point we are … and …. that is the point! Several years ago, I was asked on an interview to tell them about myself and I went right into telling them about my skills and education. The person doing the interview said, “while that is good to know, all of that information is on your resume, I want to know who you are personally.” I was at a loss for what to say because I did not want to sound like I was bragging or conceited in anyway. So, I asked for clarification and he said, tell me what your talents are, how you treat others, what you are good at in your free time. You can give your personal credentials, skills and talents in a way that is not offensive to whoever you are talking to. It is all in the delivery, how confident you are, your comfortability and not going on and on to make it sound like you are the end all of everyone’s world. A few examples of who you might consider yourself to be:· I am an avid reader and I enjoy reading about self-help, motivational and leadership skills. (fill in the genre you enjoy)· I am a fast learner and enjoy doing research when needed.· I am Optimistic and do my best to stay in a state of happiness and gratitude.· I am resilient, resourceful and always try to keep an open mind.· I am respectful of others knowledge, talents and opinions.· I am very flexible, I work well as a team player, however I can also work on my own. How many of these made you uncomfortable when you read them?How many did you think….”I can’t say that about myself, people would think I am conceited, way too cocky and think too highly of myself”. You get the point, so sometime this week take a paper and pen or go to your notes on your phone, iPad or computer and make a list of those things you know you are good at, all of your talents and your personal Attributes. This will help you with identifying who you are!
