Finding Balance When You Are Feeling Unbalanced

One of the biggest misconceptions we have of ourselves comes when we humans sink into the ALLOWING of Others to dictate our … Who, What, When, Where, and How.  This is how we come to be out of balance.

From the age of 18, the proverbial ball of choices is in our court.

For whatever reason, we do not seem to question this until we become much older. And at this point, we often cannot reverse some of the results that have not only never fit us but, never will. This is when we realize that we need to find balance.

Try this:  Find the pristine you, the you before life happened, the you that fits when you say “I used to be, do, believe, want” and so on.

Allow the lessons you have learned to be a positive addition to the Who you are now.

Ask yourself what the lessons were that you needed to learn from every memorable experience you have had, good and bad.

For every year of your life, make a list of memorable events and things for which you were grateful.    Start with your first memory. (No, I don’t care how old you are. Make the list. )

Then,  ask yourself the following questions and give a brief synopsis of your answer.  Do not just answer Yes or No.

“Do I like/love who I am today?”

“Do I like/love what I am doing today?”

“Do I like/love who I have around me today, the tribe I have built?”

“Do I like/love my job/career?”

Do I need more education or training to increase my successes?”

“Do I take good care of myself and allow for me time?”

“Do I handle money responsibly, have a savings account, a rainy day fund?”

“Do I like/love my home, any improvements needed, do I want to move?”

“Do I like/love the personal relationship I have, do I practice good communication skills, take time to be loving and playful?”

“Do I have the friendships I want and need, am I a good and caring friend as well?”

Do I have the spiritual life I wanted?”

If you answered “NO” to any question, that is where your starting point is . This is where you need to “course correct, ” in order to find that balance again.

For each question to which you answered NO,  write out how you can change the direction and what choices you can make to go in a more positive direction, in order to restore balance to your life.  Being out of balance does not mean you can’t find the balance again.

You must always allow yourself permission to course correct.