10 Habits to make yours, that will help you get out of your way.
I have been doing a lot of studying on the subject of “Thoughts become Things” taught by Best Selling Author, Mike Dooley. Below I am sharing a piece I was given many years ago and it is as true today as then
“Get Out Of Your Own Way”
1. Be careful what you ask for, you just might get it: Your words,Your dreams,Your thoughts have power to create conditions in your life. 2. What you speak about, you can bring about,If you keep saying you can’t stand your job, you might lose your job. 3. If you keep saying you can’t stand your body,Your body can become sick. 4. If you keep saying you can’t stand your car,Your car could be stolen or just stop operating. 5. If you keep saying you’re always broke, guess what?You’ll always be broke. 6. If you keep saying you can’t trust a man or trust a womanYou will always find someone in your life to hurt or betray you. 7 .If you keep saying you can’t find a job,You will remain unemployed. 8. If you keep saying you can’t find someone to love you or believe in you,Your very thoughts will attract more experiences to confirm your beliefs. 9. If you keep saying you are too old,You will soon act and look old. 10.Tget out of your way!get out of your way!urn your thoughts and conversations around to be more positive and power packedWith faith, hope and action.
DON’T BE AFRAID TO BELIEVE THAT YOU CAN HAVE WHAT YOU WANT AND DESERVE!
WATCH YOUR “THOUGHTS,” THEY BECOME WORDS WATCH YOUR “WORDS,” THEY BECOME ACTIONS. WATCH YOUR “ACTIONS,” THEY BECOME HABITS. WATCH YOUR “HABITS,” THEY BECOME CHARACTER. WATCH YOUR “CHARACTER,” FOR IT BECOMES YOUR “DESTINY”
This is a question I have gotten in the habit of asking myself from time to time. When things appear to no longer fit with the direction I want to go but I keep trying to make it work. So, I ask you …. ** Are you shrinking yourself to fit places you’ve outgrown. **
Way too often we stay too long in situations, relationships or jobs/careers that are not serving our higher purpose or happiness…. I am a huge proponent of the meaning of the words in Kenny Rodger’s song from the movie The Gambler…. “Know when to hold ’em and know when to fold ’em.” Letting go of negative people or events that are causing us to be unhappy, depressed or causes constant sadness in our lives is very seldom, an easy thing to do. However, living a life that is lower than your Vibrational needs of being happy does not bring you the blessings that are meant for you to have
Below are six important affirmations to learn and use daily are: I Am ___________(fill in the blank with a positive description) Remember that everything you say after saying I Am is an affirmation whether you say a positive or negative. Begin by saying the six mantras below;
I Am Enough,
I Am a Blessing to those whose lives I touch,
I Am intelligent, talented and resourceful,
I am beautiful/handsome and appreciate the beauty and handsomeness of others,
I am all that I need to be I love who I am. I let go of all that does not serve me in positive ways….
This may take time to let go of the big things that are keeping you from living the life you want, therefore practice letting go in small steps.
I am open to receive all that is good for me…. Too many times we are so busy doing for others that we end up being only givers, never allowing ourselves to accept the receiving. Living a balanced life means allowing yourself to receive as well as give. To believe that You are Enough!
I trust my Instincts and trust the guidance I am intuitively given…We have been gifted with a protective inner guide. Learn how to listen to it and use it for your protection, successes, and guidance for living your life to the fullest.
I am always in a state of Gratitude…. When you practice being grateful for people, events and things that come into your life it allows you to view life in a higher state of awareness and happiness. When an event or person comes into your life ask yourself “Will this association be for my Good.”
I have learned that No is a complete sentence and that it is ok to say No…… It took me years to learn this premise of saying no to others who were requesting my time on projects they had no time to do or did not want to do and to be ok with it. Our life minutes are precious…. We must use them wisely.
We often forget that every day is a New Day ??????. We go day to day in a rush to get to the next day, the following weekend, holiday or vacation. We often don’t think of stopping long enough to enjoy the very day that is present. Every day is a chance to begin again…. If you are making your own schedule and it does not seem to be working very well, Stop, and recognize the fact that it is You who are running yourself in circles!
If you are game …. let’s do a simple responsibility and time cleanse to start with: Go to your calendar, business, and personal planner and look at every appointment and function you have scheduled for the next month.
If you do not have a planner, then get a calendar or piece of paper and list your daily chores, responsibilities, appointments and social obligations· Now, look at each commitment and ask yourself the following 5 questions.
Give each of your answers a rating between 1 and 5 (1 being no longer essential and 5 very important)
1. How important is this to my life, family or work?
2. Are the deadlines listed, essential deadlines?
3. Can I eliminate this? And if I do who or what will it affect?
4. Can I move this to another month or to the end of the year?
5. Can I change the nature of the obligation?
As you look at each obligation and answer all 5 questions about each one of them, put the number that you gave to that obligation next to it.
Now, with a pencil … Take all of your number 5 obligations and put them back into your planner or on your calendar.
Review your 4s again and decide how many of them need to go back into your schedule. Take all that is left over and put the list in the back of your planner or clip it to your calendar. You can re-add any of these to your schedule if and when they resurface as a necessity that needs to be done.Then review your schedule every week to be sure you have entered in time for fun, family, and friends and be sure you made an entry for Date Night! Do this for 3 months and see if it is helpful for clearing out things that have become more habit than a necessity.Life is so short, and it is so important to make every day count. Give yourself time to enjoy your life, your family and your friends.
Sadly, many of us are so uncomfortable when giving personal accolades about ourselves that when asked to tell a little bit about ourselves we go right into all the things we do instead of saying anything about who we are. We are repeatedly told that we are not what we “Do” we need to know more about our “Who”. It is easier to rattle off all of our skills, education, certifications and what we did well on our former jobs or do well on our present job. It seems tougher to tell others about our talents, personality and the positives about who we are and why we are a personal asset to know and have as a friend or employee. We, as a general population, have become uncomfortable in talking about ourselves as far as our personal talents and gifts go. We feel like we are bragging about ourselves and to a point we are … and …. that is the point! Several years ago, I was asked on an interview to tell them about myself and I went right into telling them about my skills and education. The person doing the interview said, “while that is good to know, all of that information is on your resume, I want to know who you are personally.” I was at a loss for what to say because I did not want to sound like I was bragging or conceited in anyway. So, I asked for clarification and he said, tell me what your talents are, how you treat others, what you are good at in your free time. You can give your personal credentials, skills and talents in a way that is not offensive to whoever you are talking to. It is all in the delivery, how confident you are, your comfortability and not going on and on to make it sound like you are the end all of everyone’s world. A few examples of who you might consider yourself to be:· I am an avid reader and I enjoy reading about self-help, motivational and leadership skills. (fill in the genre you enjoy)· I am a fast learner and enjoy doing research when needed.· I am Optimistic and do my best to stay in a state of happiness and gratitude.· I am resilient, resourceful and always try to keep an open mind.· I am respectful of others knowledge, talents and opinions.· I am very flexible, I work well as a team player, however I can also work on my own. How many of these made you uncomfortable when you read them?How many did you think….”I can’t say that about myself, people would think I am conceited, way too cocky and think too highly of myself”. You get the point, so sometime this week take a paper and pen or go to your notes on your phone, iPad or computer and make a list of those things you know you are good at, all of your talents and your personal Attributes. This will help you with identifying who you are!
This has become the go to answer when life throws us a curve and I love the challenge of the “What Now?” question even though it is often changed to “What the Hell?”
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My Blogs are centered around Life Skills and the tools it takes to be the best we can be and to live our best life. Just so there are no surprises I must let you know that I mince no words, I say it like it is and my suggestions are just that … suggestions…. I never give advice, just straight forward, doable, guidance about life, how to maneuver the potholes that befall us and how to have more fun doing so.
Our lives are all about changes, chances and choices. We all want to travel a life path that brings us to the fulfillment of our dreams and goals. Being Happy has become more of a quest than the norm in our busy bustling lives. How do we stop long enough to smell those roses we keep hearing about … the roses that are not in a grocery store, the ones that bloom in a garden or park.
I advocate making as much time in our schedules to visit the beaches, forests, mountains and rivers. To play music as much as possible to fit what you are doing at any given moment. Music is the catalyst for all kinds of life experiences, healings and one of the best ways to feel feelings we need to feel.
I hope you will come back and join me for a mental trip down life’s road of “what now” and what the hell” antics and lessons of how to find and keep our happy, feel good selves.
Here’s wishing you a fantastic weekend and upcoming week… here’s hoping we meet again next Friday!
